My goal is to be happy with how I look on the wedding day but to get there without being super obsessed.

I'm not sure that's 100% possible, but its worth a shot. And its probably one of the best birthday present's a bride to be could get.
This one is from Butterflies and Daisies. I don't even know that we would need one since we're being wed inside a church and likely transporting the bulk of guests from the hotel, but I just love how the look.
And I'm thinking red. After all, our colors are red and yellow with the girls wearing either copper, gold or brown depending on what we find. So I'm imagining the bridesmaids in strappy red heels and me in something similar, only comfortable. I hope.